Sex and Social Distancing

Sex and Social Distancing

The C word. It pains me to even have to say it by name, but it is no secret that Covid-19 has ingrained every aspect of our lives, businesses and futures, and not to mention one very important topic: our relationships.

Fast forward to the new year from March 2020, and we still find ourselves caught in a never-ending cycle of hierarchical blockades, border controls, and flight bans. Although sex is not the number one topic, it keeps appearing in conversations among many of my friends, or should I say lack.

‘I miss my boyfriend,’ ..’.. ‘Im so fucking horny,’… are amongst many of the statements I’ve heard particularly in the past few weeks. The absence of touch has propelled myself into a yearning for closeness and into a frenzy of netflix romcom binges, eager to see or feel some form of intimacy. Trust me, I must rank highest for watching 365days now.

So if you’re like me, or like a close friend who is a midwife and your ‘Purple metallic vibrator is now white,’ from taking a beating… Then here are some ways that you can engage in some fun, safe sex to keep that flame burning without leaving your home.

But First, Let’s Practice some safety…

Keep your circle small...really small

The recommendations of the WHO and the government allow us to stay at home and maintain social distancing with friends, colleagues and loved ones to slow the spread of the virus. This blog does not encourage violation of this advice at all, because at this time it is vital that we do everything we can to protect ourselves and others. By neglecting to take necessary precautions or having unsafe sex outside our home, we are taking the health and lives of other people at risk.

1. Masturbation: The safest sex is to have sex with yourself. It is not only safe for the body, but also great for your mental health. However, please wash with soap and water for at least 20 seconds to keep those hands and any sex toys clean. Information can be found on the NHS website (sexual and sexual health awareness)

2. Having sex with your partner at home: If you are lucky enough to live with your partner and feel good and have no symptoms. Sex can greatly relieve any stress or anxiety you may encounter.

3. You should avoid any sexual or physical contact with anyone outside your home. If you do have sex with others, please use your partner as little as possible, and be transparent and mutually agreeable about your behavior

4. Online sex: If you make a living by meeting sex partners online. Consider taking a break. Avoiding face-to-face dating will limit your risk to your personal health, and video chat or sexting may be your choice.

5. Avoid group sex-don't do it!

Skip Sex If.

  • .If yourself or a partner are feeling unwell, Skip sex all together. Most importantly, Kissing. This is as COVID is transferable through saliva.
  • If you start to develop a fever, cough, or any symptoms associated with COVID-19
  • If you have a pre existing medical condition that could lead to a more severe development of COVID-19, skipping sex may be an option for you and your partner

Keep the Flame Burning

Human beings are social and sensory. Not being able to be with the people you love is incredibly difficult. You do not realise how much you miss a simple stroke of the hair, a warm embrace, or getting right down to it and sharing some much needed  pleasure. Being in a long distance relationship, I’ve found this time also very difficult but would love to share some ways that me and my partner keep our sex lives a bit spiced up whilst we wait to see each other again.

Human beings are social and sensory. Not being able to be with the people you love is incredibly difficult. You do not realise how much you miss a simple stroke of the hair, a warm embrace, or getting right down to it and sharing some much needed  pleasure. Being in a long distance relationship, I’ve found this time also very difficult but would love to share some ways that me and my partner keep our sex lives a bit spiced up whilst we wait to see each other again.

Sexting

Sexting. Now, I know the thought of it can be buttock clenchingly cringe. But once you get over that hurdle, and accept that everyone in fact does love a little saucy text filled with a sexy compliment, you’ll feel so much more confident. It’s important to feel comfortable at all times. A great way to ease yourself into the idea is to start by setting a scene to gage your partner’s thoughts. Why not try, ‘I’m in bed thinking about you,’ to get things rolling.

Care Package

A fun thing that I did spare of the moment in the first lockdown was send my other half a cheeky care package. It was inexpensive, simple to do and most of all a cute gesture to let him know I was thinking of him. The package included, a cute pair of lacey undies (he didn’t have to know they were primarks best) A bottle of thing lube. a vibrating cock ring and some of his favourite chocolates ( I added this to make it a little thoughtful and to save myself feeling a bit cringe) and a cheeky few words sprayed with perfume and a lipstick kiss. 

Remember to send a pre warning text that they should be expecting something from you beforehand. After all no one wants their inlaws present for this type of gift!

Remote Vibrators

Vibrators have gone global. There is an abundance of toys now on the market that allow for you and your partner to experiment with sending each other some Good Vibrations, defying location and social distancing. Follow our Blog for our Favourite tried and tested Remote controlled vibrators. Play with frequencies, link the vibes to music and even pattern your own vibrations for your lover!